It is a mistake to argue with people. I know that people feel they have the right to express their opinions, but this is the way of this world; it is not at all My way.
A friendly discussion is helpful to gain understanding, and those who can control their enthusiasm to discuss different ideas are wise.
The problems arise when someone does not agree and they feel it’s their duty to teach the other person and make them understand the truth.
The problem with this approach is that it never works. All that are accomplished by arguments are hard feelings and anger. Friends are lost, and enemies are enraged.
Let people express their opinions without feeling the need to correct them or make your own point. If you hold back and listen, sometimes they will ask you what you think, and you can share your ideas.
Remember also that many people love to argue for the sake of argument and are not looking for information or a change of mind. Scoffers are often aggressive in their arguments. In these cases, don’t get involved if you can see that your adversary is looking for disagreement rather than understanding.
Better to be silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubts.
But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife. And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, in humility correcting those who are in opposition. ~2 Timothy 2:23-25
Accept other believers who are weak in faith, and don’t argue with them about what they think is right or wrong. ~Romans 14:1 (NLT)
Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling. ~Proverbs 20:3 (NLT)
The way of this world, Jesus, is to make yourself heard and get your point across. This is not how I see You before people or the manner in which You conducted Yourself here on earth.
Help me to avoid the temptation to speak up for myself when I am misunderstood or wrongly interpreted before people. Allow me peace in those moments when I am maligned and criticized, and remind me that Your opinion of me is all that really matters. I can neither convince people nor persuade someone who is determined to hate me. I can defuse their hatred with love and show them a kind heart and gentle response.
In the end, it is love that wins people over, and hearts that are tender and kind always make many friends who last for a lifetime.